“Sometimes you need a friend whispering advice in your ear and telling you to breathe at those most difficult moments in the work when you really need to hear it.”
Someone really nice said that to me yesterday. Great timing as I gear up to simultaneously launch my first book into the world, wrap up a crazy year, plan for an even crazier 2017, and plan for the holidays. So, I’m passing along the advice.
Our personal stories are shaped by many (many!) factors – where we grew up, how many siblings we have, our ethnic or religious background and culture, our race and gender. Things we may not even think of. I happen to be 6’ tall. Being a 6’ tall woman has shaped my experience in the world in significant ways.
Imagine taking a photograph with your phone.
You can see only what’s in the boundary of the camera’s lens. You can zoom in and get closer to the details, but you can’t get a broader view than what’s allowed by the frame.
For a long time people have been asking me when I’m going to write a book. Well, it’s finally that time! On December 15, you’ll be able to download Finding Time to Lead. I hope you like it.
“The simple and honest process of letting people know that discomfort is normal, it’s going to happen, why it happens, and why it’s important, reduces anxiety, fear and shame.” – Brene Brown, Daring Greatly
No, this is not a script for a new summer horror flick. Scarier! Asking for help. Isn’t it amazing how often asking for help strikes mortal fear in even the most enlightened leader? What is that fear all about? Has anyone ever actually been fired for asking for help?
Often, saying nothing is worse
saying the wrong thing.
Engagement is leaning in when someone is talking.
Engagement is caring enough to disagree.
Who speaks, sows; who listens, reaps.
– Argentine proverb
What makes someone a good listener?
Maybe it was the cold. It was 12 degrees that day.
Maybe it was distance. I was half way through my 6 mile run.
Maybe it was being alone on a trail.
Whatever it was, I was reflecting on the beauty of what was around me.
Do you have ever a dream that makes you sit up in bed? Last night was it for me.
Taken from the Brewster Kaleidoscope Society, a society of artists who design and create kaleidoscopes, “Kaleidoscopes are portals of remembrance that open onto the familiar, yet unexpected. Allowing the eye to marvel, the mind to explore, and the heart to leap, these mirrored tubes of magic have developed into a specific art form.”
What if we thought about a kaleidoscope in the context of our relationships – they allow the “eye to marvel, the mind to explore and the heart to leap.”
Choice is a funny thing.
Sometimes we want to choose.
Sometimes we want to be told.
We have to the power to choose nearly every minute of every day.
“Courage is what it takes to stand up and speak; courage is also what it takes to sit down and listen.” –Winston Churchill