So we had planned a meeting, as we often do. We had planned every minute carefully and we thought we had considered every eventuality… except we hadn’t planned for a bus driver who didn’t know where he was going. I mean REALLY didn’t have any idea where he was going.
“If you can’t get destination; go for direction.” – Meg Wheatley
Ha! Isn’t that perfect for the many discussions we have all had about where we’re headed?! Do we really know what the destination is? Can we really know?
“When our definitions match, our purpose and goals are in alignment and confusion cannot derail our progress.” – The Weave, v1
How many times have you been down the road with a decision, only to discover that you and your colleagues were using the same words but talking about two completely different things!?
“The gift of good process is that it allows people to be in learning together. The gift of content is that it gets work done. When you have these two together, you get good results.”
-Toke Paludan Moller, Art of Hosting, Denmark
So true! How often do we skip process “to get work done?” And how often do we chit-chat to “get to know each other” and never really “get down to work?”
Remember the phrase if March comes in like a lion, it will go out like a lamb? Well, March has come in like a lion for me and I’m HOPING it will go out like a lamb!
My father died suddenly on February 20 and for a month all has been a blur. I spent the weekend after my dad died in New York City meeting a new tribe of twenty hearty souls with whom I will share a ten-month (and beyond!) journey in the Good Life Project Immersion. I spent the second weekend in Omaha with family and friends at my dad’s funeral. The third week I was in San Francisco, balancing a work and vacation trip with my daughter and her best friend.
We listen for facts (sometimes) and opinions (most of the time).
Often we’re listening for “what is she saying about me?!” but that’s another post entirely.
What if we listened differently? What if we listened for “What is this person trying to convey about what they believe?”
I read this somewhere…
“The human condition is to transition between moments of confidence and confusion.”
I have to say, I found this a great relief.
If we’re the most prepared, have the best data and make the best arguments, we will win. That’s what we think.
What if… instead of thinking about how we can “win” with our arguments, plans, data and points of view… we imagine that winning means arriving at the best solution, the most sustainable path, the most innovative approach or the most powerful shared vision?
I went to a conference and the opening speaker said…
“You are invited to come here as you are.”
Isn’t that a lovely invitation? Imagine how wonderful it feels to be welcomed to something just as you are – right in that moment.
As my daughter walked down the hall toward me, she immediately put some note cards in my hand. They had that cute little kid handwriting on them, so I quickly asked about them because who doesn’t love little kid handwriting? She replied, “We filled each other’s buckets today.” I was a little taken aback because they couldn’t possibly be doing what I thought that meant. When I asked her to tell me more she said, “Our teacher said that if someone was nice or did something that made you feel good you should let them know, so we take a notecard and write a note to the person and put it in their mailbox.”
“The chicken is the egg’s way of reproducing itself.” – Peter Koestenbaum
Stop and think about that for a minute… wait for it … did it make you smile? It made me smile.
“Never confuse faith that you will prevail in the end with the discipline to confront the most brutal facts of your current reality.” – Admiral Stockdale, POW for seven years
Screw the optimists; bring on the realists! Not really.
There’s a saying in Nova Scotia that goes like this:
“Fill your boots!”
I love that.
I believe that we all have big boots to fill.